Since I do not know how to make myself happy, I turned into the internet for information about happiness.
There are a number of sites; some of them makes sense, some of them absolutely nonsense (those that put the entire responsibility of your unhappiness on your own shoulder. As if nothing else can influence, diminish, or generate it).
Anyways, following happiness tips are the ones that I remember now:
- Live a simple life
- Help others
- Aim for less
- Be kind to yourself
- Forgive more
- Be positive
- Control your mental chatter
- Find meaning in what you do
- Eat well
bla bla bla bla…
I can tell from my own experience some of these do not make people happy unless they really need it (e.g. eating well).
Exercise is great, can make one feel better, but does that mean we need to exercise all the time?
Meditation is not for everyone.
We all have some meaning in whatever we do; whether it is our job, cooking for others, or caring and helping others.
Socializing is great but only with the right people.
Forgiving is great but it does not help if your unhappiness is not caused by old issues and scars.
I live a simple life and I breathe and I am trying to be kind to myself and help others. And yet, I am not happy.
Three of these may help me relax more, though; being positive, aiming for less, and controlling my mental chatter. As a perfectionist and realist, these can really help subsidize my mental anguish.
Yet, I have been aware of these quite some time and so far I was not able to make myself happy. So maybe it is the time that I ask my doctor to prescribe me an anti-depressant. Perhaps I too have a chemical imbalance, which unless restored by medication will continue to make me unhappy.
Every one deserves to be happy. So do I.