It is a great day with the freedom to do nothing and everything 🙂
I used this sentence first yesterday and I kinda liked it – so please ignore it if it bothers you. It just reminds me my own freedom. For a control freak and someone like myself who has a lot of things on her to-do-list, that is a great feeling:)
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I am drinking the first cups of my morning coffee and looking ahead the day: I have a bean meal to cook (started already); a sourdough loaf to bake (proving right now); a yard to dig and fix somehow; loved ones to speak to; and mentally work on the problem of “what is best for my future self“:
1) is it staying at my current job and job environment, and aiming to change my mind set so that I can feel good about myself no matter how negative or problematic the work is?
Can I really relax, lower my expectations from myself, adapt a new attitude, care less, and become more self-confident and just make things happen – if they can happen?
Not sure, but I sure can try….I am quite aware that my self-confidence is quite low. This is mostly because of myself and the expectations I have from myself. Certainly, it does not help when you self-critique yourself all the time…. Please do not do that, friends; it is good to be aware of yourself, but please be not rigid in your thinking about yourself and others. You change; people change. I too can change. I just do not know how to handle that…
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2) is it taking the risk or opportunity (depends on where you are looking from), and looking for jobs aggressively?
Assuming that I find a new job that I am content with;
Am I ready to make this change mentally and physically? Yes, I am. I have done this before – I can do it gain.
Can I move to another city? Yes I can – I have done this many times in the past. packing and getting rid of stuff is a head ache, but it happens eventually. The worst thing would be to ask a couple of friends or contract persons to rent a truck and deliver the stuff to a donation centre.
Can I sell my house? hey, yes I guess so. Also, keeping it and renting is another option, is it not?
Can I leave my team at work? That is gonna be tough….. They trust me that I look after them and advance their work and careers. They trusted me and relocated here….. So it is really tough. I am kind of thinking that we can find better jobs for them; at least we can try. And if not, look for alternative ways. I am sure it is gonna be just fine….
Can I leave my position, salary, benefits, office? Yes, if I can get a comparable one somewhere else.
Will I change? the way I look at my work, performance, and my expectations from myself; will I find myself in a similar situation in the new job too? This is even a tougher situation for me…… I am not confident that I can be fully happy with my new job, either. I feel like I may end up feeling a similar way; lack of self-esteem may take over again. what will I do then? Start looking for another job? How will it affect me now that I am middle aged?
How will it feel to start a new chapter in my life? Energizing and exciting! It will be great to get rid of the garbage off my shoulders and put my chin up with positivity, fresh air, and hope!
But, if I do not make this change, do I have a chance to change? Do I have to get a new job for these:
- to have a better look at life
- to have better interests and better value to my work?
- to make positive changes for myself and others
- to feel good about myself
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And, most importantly; what is it that I really want? To change myself or to change my work?
Is it about changing what I see or how I see what I see?
Life as I interpret it 
It’s a very hard decision. I worked 911 for police, EMS and Fire for 30 years. I took to the job immediately. I thought it was my calling. I worked in the trenches always finding ways to make things better and more efficient. Eventually I was promoted to supervisor on top of my console duties, I was the boss. It nearly killed me mentally and emotionally but I pushed on because I’m that person. When I retired at 58, I got the hell out of town and away from everything I knew. I look back now and realize, I nearly killed myself. Pay and benefits were great for small town in Iowa, I was able to retire at 58 and have a great pension. If I knew then what I know now, I would have gotten out of the business much, much earlier but then I may not have been able to retire early….or would I?
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that is so surreal ninasusan; you telling these especially the word “my calling..” you sound exactly like my own inner child (i call it child only because it is safe there and is wise and honest). I was thinking the entire morning – this is not my calling – where is my next calling? where I will find my ‘fire” again which will make me give my 100% and let me make things happen 100% too?! The excitement and meaning of what i am doing and I would like to do. the passion. the interest. the feeling of “yes! I am doing it!”. where is my calling? i will find it out….
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Make peace with yourself first. Be happy with you and everything else will fall into place. If you are not happy here you will not be happy there. How you feel matters most. Put your feelings in the forefront, when you are happy with you, you can then be happy with others. Decide that you don’t have to decide this minute, that where you are right now is where you are meant to be. That you have not made any wrong decisions and that where you’ve been and where you are has helped to prepare you for where you will go. Find things about your current job that you can appreciate, your co-workers, the pay, the benefits, the knowing of it. Take comfort in these things for now and settle in. Once you can truly be happy with you, it will not matter where you are or where you work. So rather than looking outside of yourself, look inside. I know you can do it, you’ve come such a long way already!! 🙂
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